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Long-term relationships provide a multitude of wonderful things that can positively add to life. Having a committed partner can provide support, safety, and joy. Yet, as we grow closer in our relationship, we can start to lose parts of our identity. Creating a life with a partner is a natural progression, and something many of us look forward to. So how do you maintain your identity within a long-term relationship and why is it so important?
Stay in touch with your needs
Have you ever heard someone who is in a long-term relationship discuss feeling that they “lost” parts of themself in the relationship or that their other relationships suffer due to them not prioritizing their needs. Neglecting our needs while in a long-term relationship can hinder our sense of identity. It’s easy to fall into routines and patterns where individual needs fall to the bottom of the to-do list. Recognizing when this starts to happen is a good way to reassess if your individual needs are being met.
Spend time on your own goals
It's common for couples to adopt a collective identity, often expressed through phrases like "we" or "us." While partnership is important, it's equally vital to recognize and recognize your unique individuality within the relationship. Dedicate time and energy to invest in friendships, pursue passions, advance in your career, and explore your interests. These efforts are essential for preserving your sense of self and sustaining a fulfilling relationship dynamic.
Investing in yourself is investing in your partnership
Maintaining a strong sense of identity within a long-term relationship is essential for personal growth and overall well-being. Making space for interests, hobbies, and connections outside of your romantic partnership is not only beneficial for your individual fulfillment but also for the health of your relationship. Your identity serves as a foundation for self-confidence, allowing for room to navigate the complexities of the relationship with authenticity and strength. Continuing to honor your identity within a relationship will help maintain a sense of self, positively impacting how you show up in your relationship.
When to seek additional support
If you are struggling to communicate with your partner, feel confused about what you want out of your relationship, or are concerned about developing patterns of codependency, therapy might be an important next step. A therapist can help you build the tools you need to express yourself, break unhealthy habits, and think through what is most important to you. Ready to learn more? Schedule a free phone consultation with a member of our team at Salt River Therapy through the link below.
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